Russian And Ukrainian Ladies - The Real Deal

Russian Brides? As with so much in life this well known phrase has circumnavigated the planet. Unfortunately for many people it is associated negatively, which I guess is hardly surprising. The reality behind this phrase is in fact something quite different and this article will I hope go some way to explaining how these ladies view both life and the World and what in fact they hope and strive for.

The beauty of ladies from the FSU has during recent years become well known to men worldwide. I see on a daily basis the flow of interest of men from all over the planet, during the course of work at my Ukraine based Dating Agency. From where I sit it seems that maybe some guys have not really thought through the realities of trying to win the heart of a woman across such huge distances.

This is not the girl next door, or even from the same town, or country. Really we receive letters for our ladies, sometimes two lines," I saw your photo, I love you, will you marry me". Do not get me wrong, such a letter is great, romantic and would lift the heart and spirits of any girl within the guys city, or even country. The truth is that when one of our ladies receives such a letter, she is not to impressed. As I have mentioned these are smart, pragmatic and practical ladies and receiving such a letter from maybe 12,000.00 klm's away, or even more can be a little frustrating.

So clearly a Russian wife, or bride is not an easy option, but is it worth the extra effort, this is the question? Now in my opinion the answer is without a doubt yes. Ok I could be biased, right? I run a Russian Dating agency so clearly I am not impartial. Well in truth I am very partial and have much admiration for these ladies.

Why do I believe that these ladies are worth pursuing, despite the extra effort involved? Well the list of attractions and attributes that many of these ladies share is quite substantial, so here goes.......

These ladies are in general very smart and very intelligent as well as being either beautiful, or very beautiful. They know what they want and they are going to achieve it, to the best of their abilities. Registering to an International Dating agency is only part of their life plan.

Most probably they will have either a university degree, or will be working towards achieving one. Are they desperate to leave their country for a better life abroad? In general no, but the important thing to understand is that they are open to the possibility. If they meet a nice guy from abroad great, but equally if they meet a nice guy from within their own country, this can be great also.

So together with the beauty they share, how can they be described? These are in general proud and strong ladies. They know they are beautiful and they know they are very attractive. Equally they have few inhibitions in dressing to accentuate their beauty and attractiveness. For the foriegn man it is quite a pleasant surprise to see how much care they take over their appearance. Beauty saloons are a thriving business here and many ladies will visit one regularly to ensure that she looks her best.

Equally they take enormous care and pride in their appearance and dress both very well and in such a way as to highlight their femininity. The take these ladies have in the gender stakes is interestingly very different to those held by ladies in the West. These ladies understand the strength of their femininity and of being a woman. It is interesting that this attitude, or evolution seems to have given them greater respect, or empowerment within their countries, than Women have achieved in the West.

Now in addition to all of the above these ladies can make ideal wives, why? It is related to the moral and family values that they have been surrounded with and immersed within. The family is very important in the FSU and these ladies will generally put the family first and above all else. Due to this history and upbringing Slavic women are considered by many to make very good wives and mothers.

Is it worth the extra effort of trying for a Russian/Ukrainian partner, soulmate, or wife? We believe that yes it is and have written many articles explaining our reasoning. A Russian partner is not the easy option due to the realities of distance and the cultural and linguistic differences, but the prize is worth the effort. You can study the profiles of our beautiful ladies a see these qualities at: http://girls-from-russia.com/ Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Terrence_Aubrey

The Mother - The Wife - The Mistress

The Mother

In Russian mentality the woman is, above all, identified with a mother. A kind, patient, child-loving, wise, with a maternal instinct of support and protection, strong-willed, strong and just, caring patroness.

The Wife

Tranquil, even tempered, virtuous, rational, modest, caring, practical, neat, prefers to dress well but not provocatively. In her relations with the man she values most of all reliability and stability. She will take care of her man's looks and his proper diet. Has a tendency to sacrifice her own interests. Her attitudes are conservative.


The Mistress


Emotional, impressionable, unpredictable, playful, flirtatious, capricious, sexual, sensuous, prefers to dress in bright, striking colors. In her relations with men she values most of all the amorous atmosphere, sex. She seldom worries about marriage. Bringing up children is not her idea of life.


Thus, the type a specific woman belongs to is determined by a combination of various factors and by her personality. Your search of a woman with a clear-cut mark of an isolated type from the above mentioned is most likely bound to be a failure because each Russian woman will try on several roles in her life.


Russian Women and the Standard of Living


You must already know that the standard of living in the west differs remarkably from that in the West. A typical RW will get up in the morning, have a shower and prepare breakfast for her family if she has brother or sisters. Since salaries are so low and jobs so unpredictable, it is very common for RW to live at home with their parents until they are very old. She then goes out at about 7am – depending on the time of the year and distance from the office - passing many drab, neglected apartments before waiting at the bus stop for a bus. Cars are a luxury in most families and you will rarely see a twenty-something girl driving her own car – unless she works in a large city for a large company


If she happens to work late she will get a taxi by stopping a car on the side of the road and asking the price. If both woman and driver agree on the price and everything looks safe for her she will use this car or if not, she will stop another car…until she will find a suitable car. Most of the drivers use their own cars to drive different people during the day and night and have no other means of supporting their family.


The women try as often as possible to not use taxis as they are very expensive. More and more former professionals have started offering taxi services as the economy suffers and they lose jobs


She gets to work at about 7:40am and goes about her job. Women usually arrive earlier for fear of losing their jobs. Since very little regulations exist for employees, there is no provision for tea breaks and lunch is usually 30 minutes. At lunch there is usually just enough time to get lunch and then go back to work. She should finish at 5pm and go home. But this is rarely the norm. Lack of regulations mean employees – especially women – are forced to work longer hours then necessary.


Also it is very common for a beautiful woman to be harassed by her male co-workers. The request from a pretty woman’s boss to stay after hours for “work” is usually an indication that work is the last thing on his mind.


The woman then usually stops along the way to buy the necessities for the home before arriving home at about 7pm. Weekends are not any different. The women needs to awake early to help her mother at home and then may spend the rest of the day helping her family or preparing for family friends who may visit.


Here comes the interesting bit. If these are friends of your parents, the conversation will eventually move to the woman’s chances for marriage and they will exert pressure on her to get married. They almost always know of some young man who will make a wonderful husband for her.


And this cycle continues, with very little chance to break away. Russian do not marry Western men for their money or a better life, they marry a western man for a normal life. This something any man must remember when he goes to Russia. Yes there are many women looking at money, but you do not want to marry them. A women must see the side of you she will need when she experiences difficulty in life, the side she will need when she will obviously experience failure.


For her some commodities that are considered natural by an average foreigner are thought of as a luxury. A Russian family income of $500 is viewed as very high and signifies top standard of living. Her income will probably be between $100-150. It is not rare when a woman cannot find a job for many months even with a degree. There have been many cases where a women as struggled to find a job, only to be fired for no apparent reason and denied payment.

Women of this type can get scared of the prospect of relations with you...

Against: Women of this type can get scared of the prospect of relations with you, can refuse to believe in your good feelings and intentions because of I-don't-deserve-him attitude, so that you will be forced into proving the contrary time and again with a risk of getting bored to death; besides. One agency described such women in the following way…”you risk marrying a woman who doesn't love you for very often women of this type choose a man obviously inferior to them to make their own beauty and intelligence more prominent, emphasized by such a 'background', and you will agree that being a 'background' is not a most pleasant thing. Therefore, make sure that her feelings are genuine before you marry a woman of this type.”…I think this is so untrue. These women are merely looking for someone to believe in them. Someone to tell them they are special and can really accomplish anything they try to do. If you show someone that you care, they will return your love in more ways then you could possibly hope. And I speak for myself here. I have always had men trying to be with me from a very young age. But due to personal difficulties I always thought I could never achieve anything and I would always be alone. The reason I married my husband is because he proved he loved me not for just for my physical beauty. For a very long time I thought there was no such thing as true love, it was a fabrication of Hollywood. I thought I would never find a young man who shared my interests and goals in life. But I found such a person. When I help my clients this is what I always remember. True love is possible with the right guidance. I love him because he showed me what was and is possible.


“Supermodels”: Beautiful but rather limited Russian women who are usually in love with their own person. As a rule, they prefer to work as models, secretaries and aspire to becoming actresses.


For: Is there a man who, even for a moment, hasn't dreamt of marrying Claudia Schiffer of Marilyn Monroe? It is great to take such a woman out for she provokes envy almost in everybody.


Against: Such beauty can be compared to a box of chocolates: they are sweet. But it is in human nature that a person can't survive on chocolates only, in the long run he will long for something more nutritious. It's the same with women: after all, some day you'll want to talk with her, to share you joys and sorrows, to get her advice and help. But do not expect this from a “Supermodel”. Women of this type can be placed into the category of women to beware of (see the unit "Russian Women to Beware Of").


“The Girl Next Door”: Russian women of good appearance and of very high level of intelligence. They are usually engaged in average work.


a) If she is self-confident she will find a partner without much difficulty. They are aware of their winning and losing points and learn, in the long run, to emphasize the first and to smooth over the latter.


For: Such woman will never bore you, since she'll always find a topic for a conversation. You will never know the throe of jealousy: there are few men who are indifferent to looks craving for exclusively intellectual intercourse; you'll always remain a superman for her.


Against: Not all of your acquaintances will appreciate your choice: people will judge your choice by its exterior.


b) She may be of average appearance and lacking in beauty


For: Such woman will never bore you, since she'll always find a topic for a conversation. You will never know the throe of jealousy: there are few men who are indifferent to looks craving for exclusively intellectual intercourse; you'll always remain a superman for her.


Against: It will take you much time and effort to raise her confidence, to make her feel self-assured; her poor image of herself may affect your personal life: she may shun the society of your friends and making visits: she may give up pretty clothes not to draw attention to herself.


“The extra”: These women of this type can be called neither beautiful nor ugly; they will not set the Mississippi on fire but are far from being stupid, are sure of themselves; in most cases they belong to the middle class; they do not like to take the responsibility in business on themselves.


For: These women represent the stereotypical RW; they are domestic, comforting, not intricate at all. You'll always feel at ease with them, they value their husband and know how to please him, they make the best mothers and housewives.


Against: If you favor surprises, mysteries, surges of emotion, tension of passions, diversity - this is not your type.


“The wannabe”: Women with poor physical appearance and low level of intelligence, whom you are unlikely to get interested in. Such women


Apart from this classification, the Russian woman can perform several social parts: the Mother, the Mistress, the Wife.